Families of choice are built by non-heterosexual people.

There are more than two million non-heterosexual people (lesbians, gays, transgenders and bisexuals) in Poland. It is estimated that around half of them live in intimate relationships. Many raise children . Their families are called ‘families of choice’. Relationships and families are as diverse as these created by heterosexual people, still, little is known about them. Exactly such families are often called ‘families of choice’.

Why such a term? It derives from the fact that these families are often created without any kind of social and legal support and because their members are not always connected by blood (social parents – children). The fact that they want to be a family and be treated as such is only a matter of choice.
The term ‘families of choice’ as such comes from a book by an US-American anthropologist Kath Weston Families We Choose: Gays, Lesbians and Kinship. Already in the middle of 1980-ies she carried out research in California and observed that the term ‘family’ became more and more popular among homosexual people in respect of their own relationships.


One of the main goals of the proposed research is presentation of the complexity and diversity of functioning of family and intimate configurations made by non-heterosexual people in Poland as well as understanding of challenges that they wrestle with in their daily life.
Among many other things, we would like to enquire into the following aspects:

  • How do non-heterosexual people create their relations? How do they understand and define them?
  • How do non-heterosexual people justify their relations in their own social environment? How do they wrestle with social exclusion and marginalization, with legal pitfalls and social challenges?
  • What are the needs and expectations of members of „families of choice”? In what range is social and legal acknowledgement necessary for the realisation of these needs (e.g. in such areas as: child care, education, health and social care)?
  • How do non-heterosexual people cope with their parenthood, which decisions do they make in connection with it and how do they put them into practice? How does parenthood change the dynamics of relationship between partners and in relation to the family of origin? What is the role of the co-parent?
  • What are the experiences and needs of children raised in non-heterosexual families?


Project execution will allow for gaining knowledge on realities of people living in non-heterosexual relationships in Poland. Thanks to gaining this knowledge, it will be possible to work out new, more effective strategies and forms of activities for „families of choice”. The project is thus crucial not only for scientific reasons. The collected data may also be useful for:

  • specialists working in the area of social policy,
  • employees and activists of non-governmental organizations,
  • politicians on local and central level,
  • people interested in the problem for professional reasons,
  • scientists, especially those working in the area of social science,
  • students of such subjects as: psychology, sociology, pedagogy, medicine, economy and many others.


We invite to participate in the research all people who are over 18, and have lived in a non-heterosexual relationship for more than six months.


In order to participate in the research, you can:

We will call you back for sure. Please, let us know, at which time and on which day we may ring you back.


In our research, we would like to get valid results, based on the contacts with people living in the ‘families of choice’. For this reason, we are very concerned to meet or contact you or your partner in person.
You will get the questionnaire or access to it directly from a pollster, working in our project. You will be asked to fill in the questionnaire by yourself. This will take approximately 45 minutes. The pollster will not be able to see what you write.
The questionnaire is absolutely confidential.
The pollsters’ work is regulated by restrictive ethical rules. The pollsters were not chosen at random but they all received excellent education and have hands-on experience. In addition, their work is supervised by auditors, who bring a wealth of experience in conducting similar research projects.


An individual in-depth interview (IDI) is a longer conversation, moderated by one of our main researchers. We will meet people wanting to have such an interview in 2014, in order to learn as much as possible about your opinions, problems and worries. We would like to know who you really are and how you live.

An IDI is usually longer than a questionnaire and is recorded on a dictaphone – the aim of this practise is a transcript from the interview, done after the conversation had been held.


Focus research, in other words, a focus group interview, is carried out in a group of 6-10 people. It also lasts longer than a paper questionnaire and is designed for getting to know diverse opinions and associations on a given topic by the researched.


(= how is my data going to be stored)

Yes, we do guarantee full confidentiality. Our team members have long relevant experience in carrying out research projects, where sensitive data was collected. In order to guarantee full confidentiality, the data will be stored in a safe place, secured by the password, known only by the research team members.

All forenames, last names, names of cities, towns and villages, which are going to be mentioned in the conversation, will be deleted or changed. E.g., if you say: “my aunt Maggie, who doesn’t accept my girlfriend, Kate, at all, she lives not far away from here, in Y-town…” the transcript of this phrase will be written down as: “my aunt X., who doesn’t accept my girlfriend, A., at all, lives not far away from here, in B. [a town close to the place where the interviewed person lives]”.


After each stage of the research, i.e. after collecting the paper questionnaires, individual in-depth interviews and focus group discussions, as well as after the ethnographic research phase, we will draw up a report. You will be able to read our analysis of the collected material. During the project, we will keep making the so-called part-results accessible on our website, which means that we will try to describe what we have learnt during a particular research stage, as thoroughly as possible. While quoting somebody, we will follow the confidentiality rule [see above].
A number of scientific publications will also be prepared. The research results will be reported at international and national conferences.